An Open Letter to You Who Never Knew You Were Enough

Pablo Picasso's Girl Before a Mirror

Dear You,

Just like most people, I know the feeling when people leave. It is not just the cutting of relationship strings that make us feel bad about it, but the rejection that is the aftermath. The questions that bother us why we weren't enough, or why it didn't work. We feel that whatever good in us are left unappreciated and all our faults were brought under the spotlight. That is the rejection we face after separation, but do not let it eat you whole. Yes, we experience rejection all through our life, and we could never deny that the most painful is from the one we love most. We can't change that. People leave and we just become part of their past because that is life. We keep on finding the person who could love us the way we want to be loved. And so people leave when they can't have the love they think they deserve. Don't fret. It's nobody's fault. You just have different standards for love. Her standards may not qualify you, while your standards qualify her. Or vice versa. Or when lucky, you get the same standards met by each other. Of course, people don't usually come perfect with the standards other expect, and so whoever can adjust and live with compromise usually take the relationship to the next level and make it more meaningful to last.

Just remember that:

You are not a toy that has to be assembled.
You are not a doll to be dressed.
You are not a "mecha" to be customized.
You are a unique collectible that is perfect in its original packaging,
that your value goes up when your seal isn't tampered.
Your demand increases as you become the rarest of your kind.
And you are rare, because everyone comes with their unique qualities.
No one is the same as you.
People who fail to see how great you are do not deserve to be with you at your greatest.
People who deserve you preserve the great in you, take care of you until you become the best.

The people who love you would see your best and your flaws, and love you just the same. The imperfections make you who you are, thus making it impossible for them to love another. You will always be perfect to those who love you. If you are not, then you are not loved. Because you are enough, and will always be.

Some people don't understand that you can't be fixed. Instead, your weaknesses should be supported with another's strength to help you stand sturdier than before. People who love you will see your flaws as opportunities to love you more, and they make things better for the two of you.

The person to love is the one who will say, "You are beautiful. Because and in spite of who you are, you are beautiful. All that you could offer, it will do. You are enough and you are mine."

Believe that you deserve that kind of love and it will come.

Yours always,
Me who see that you're just perfect